Since I consider myself the authority on Narcissistic Personality Disorder, here’s what I have to say about poor Lindsay finding a guy to marry her:
I think with this mental disorder in women (and it IS a mental disorder. they live in a literal ulterior universe that is distorted AF. If that’s not a mental disorder, I don’t know what is) they have more of a problem finding love because guys do not put up with narcissists the way women do.
Guys will, but only for so long. Women will tolerate it long term, out of not wanting to start over or the ‘I can fix it’ thing, or even worse, ‘I can change him and make him nicer if I just do this or that…’
Women start to believe there’s something wrong with them and they really don’t measure up, so we want to keep trying. But the harder we try, the worse we get treated. It’s like being on a hamster wheel with 100 pound weights tied to your feet. Why do women tolerate it more so than men? I think it’s the ‘nurterer’ in us.
Most guys don’t play those silly fucking games. It’s so time for her to admit she has a mental disorder, AND possibly an alcohol problem, take her Bravo and influencing cash and get a professional to give her the tools to act NORMAL and not be such a disgusting human.
I honestly sat there, even though it was 100% expected, with my mouth on the floor when she was on WWHL, and Andy played the ‘Watch What Happens Five’ game and she was to name five things she learned about herself this season.
He actually thought she was going to own any bad behavior, at all? Maybe even drinking too much on some of the nights out?? When her fiance is a recovered alcoholic?
She ended up making jokes for the first four items she ‘learned’ and for the last one, she said not to ignore ‘red flags.’ Really? CARL’S red flags? A guy that overcame drug and alcohol addiction, and just buried his brother, and only sibling that he lost due to drug addiction? Then he gets into a new relationship with a very difficult and hard to please woman, which yes he should have known, seeing firsthand two other relationships unravel, not to mention they were supposedly ‘best friends.’ (were they really? Or do they just like saying that?)
I’m not saying Carl is perfect, but he was not the one to blame. And the job thing, yeah annoying. I can see her concerns with that. But I keep wondering why she strongly influenced him last year to quit working for Kyle, and convinced him Kyle was so horrible. He quit his job without a Plan B in mind, convincing him he was way too important and valuable to work for someone.
So what the hell did she expect? I feel like maybe since she went in so hard at wanting him to quit, he may have thought it was okay to take time off.
He tried so hard to see the good in her, and to manage her, but there isn’t any good in her, and you shouldn’t have to ‘manage’ the mood swings and meltdowns of a grown-ass human. You manage a toddler, you shouldn’t need to manage your partner.
If you find yourself managing manic meltdowns constantly, triggered by the most minor of incidents, feeling lied to and manipulated, and having to take notes and screen shot messages during arguments, you are in a dysfunctional relationship with a dysfunctional person.
I’m curious what happened over Memorial Day last year that Carl discussed with his mom and stepdad, but didn’t give any details on. Abusive is the description that his stepdad gave. Maybe we’ll find out at the reunion. I’m sure Lindsay will have her own version.
You may have heard her story, that she was abandoned by her mom when she was little, and raised by an aunt. Abandonment is classic cause of the disorder that is formed in childhood.
I’m tired of knowing everything. Carl is not perfect, but not the one to blame~!!!
Lindsay GET HELP!!!!! Take both of my ex’s with you!!
Andy trying to get her to own up to something, and she made jokes and blamed Carl, was CLASSIC NPD behavior!! No accountability- EVER !!
Did you hear that she is pregnant to this poor dumb ass that she’s seeing now? The last thing this woman needs is a baby, but I think she’s desperate to have a kid and to hang onto this one.
This reunion will be interesting.
